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You Can Be Warm Without an Embrace
From the NYTimes’ Social Q’s; gift link here. Posting because yay for boundaries!
I recently saw an occasional collaborator — with whom I’ve built a nice rapport — at a concert. When I approached him, I instinctively went in for a hug. His body stiffened, and he kept his arms at his sides. I thought: Oh, this was a mistake! I backed off, and we exchanged pleasantries. But his response felt excessive and rude. Should I let this go?
FRIEND
It’s easy to feel defensive — or chastened — when we accidentally overstep with friends. But it is wrong to blame others for our unwanted touching. Your collaborator had no obligation to return your hug or to make you feel better about it. So, to answer your question: No, you shouldn’t let this go. Instead, rethink your instinct to hug people who you aren’t sure will welcome it.
I recently saw an occasional collaborator — with whom I’ve built a nice rapport — at a concert. When I approached him, I instinctively went in for a hug. His body stiffened, and he kept his arms at his sides. I thought: Oh, this was a mistake! I backed off, and we exchanged pleasantries. But his response felt excessive and rude. Should I let this go?
FRIEND
It’s easy to feel defensive — or chastened — when we accidentally overstep with friends. But it is wrong to blame others for our unwanted touching. Your collaborator had no obligation to return your hug or to make you feel better about it. So, to answer your question: No, you shouldn’t let this go. Instead, rethink your instinct to hug people who you aren’t sure will welcome it.
iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 05:10 pm
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 05:10 pmFantastic Four #394
Plot: Tom DeFalco
Script: Mike Lackey
Pencils: Paul Ryan
Inks: Danny Bulanadi
In which I make good on my threats of continuing with the DeFalco/Ryan run.
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sunnymodffa (sunnymodffa) wrote in fail_fandomanon2025-08-27 05:09 pm
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iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 02:56 pm
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 02:56 pmExtreme Justice #1
Writer: Dan Vado
Pencils: Marc Campos
Inks: Ken Branch
The heroes try to explore their new headquarters, only to get attacked by more killer robots. At least, I think that’s what is going on. It is hard to tell with this art.
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iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 12:16 pm
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 12:16 pmDoom Patrol (1987) #5
Writer: Paul Kupperberg
Pencils: Steve Lightle
Inks: Gary Martin
The Doom Patrol intercepts a message that seems to suggest that Niles Caulder is still alive.
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badly_knitted (badly_knitted) wrote in fan_flashworks2025-08-27 11:39 am
badly_knitted) wrote in fan_flashworks2025-08-27 11:39 am
Long Challenge: The Fantastic Journey: Fanfic: Travelling Hopefully
Title: Travelling Hopefully
Fandom: The Fantastic Journey
Author: badly_knitted
Characters: Jonathan Willaway.
Rating: PG
Setting: After the series.
Summary: The travellers have already walked a long way, but they still have a long way to go.
Word Count: 350
Content Notes: Nada.
Written For: Challenge 489: Amnesty 81, using Challenge 455: Long.
Disclaimer: I don’t own The Fantastic Journey, or the characters. They belong to their creators.
A/N: Mods, please tag with f: tv (category)
iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 05:11 am
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-27 05:11 amCaptain America #387
Writer: Mark Gruenwald
Pencils: Rik Levins
Inks: Danny Bulanadi
Diamondback and her friends are press-ganged in to taking a cruise. Sounds like a real hardship.
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infinitum_noctem (infinitum_noctem) wrote in fan_flashworks2025-08-26 07:10 pm
infinitum_noctem) wrote in fan_flashworks2025-08-26 07:10 pmRed Challenge: Women's Soccer RPF: Fanfiction: Stanford Red
Title: Stanford Red
Fandom: Women's Soccer RPF
Pairings: Hope Solo/Kelley O'Hara
Characters: Hope Solo, Kelley O'Hara
Rating: G
Length: 125 words
Summary: Hope supports her girlfriend by wearing her university hat.
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Fandom: Women's Soccer RPF
Pairings: Hope Solo/Kelley O'Hara
Characters: Hope Solo, Kelley O'Hara
Rating: G
Length: 125 words
Summary: Hope supports her girlfriend by wearing her university hat.
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StarWatcher (starwatcher) wrote in fandom_checkin2025-08-26 06:03 pm
starwatcher) wrote in fandom_checkin2025-08-26 06:03 pmEntry tags:
Daily Check-in
This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Tuesday, August 26, to midnight on Wednesday, August 27. (8pm Eastern Time).
Poll #33539 Daily Check-in
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 26
How are you doing?
I am OK.
17 (65.4%)
I am not OK, but don't need help right now.
9 (34.6%)
I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)
How many other humans live with you?
I am living single.
8 (30.8%)
One other person.
13 (50.0%)
More than one other person.
5 (19.2%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
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zero to nuclear?
Dear Eric: My wife has three living adult kids from three different fathers — ages 22, 29 and 32. The 32-year-old has a husband and two kids of her own. I allowed all of them to live with us since they couldn’t get along on their own.
Last year, my wife’s fourth adult child died so I inherited her 3-year-old.
We had nine people in our home. I am not their father but tried to give them an opportunity in life until I realized they didn’t want help getting on their feet, they wanted to be taken care of.
So, I filed eviction on all of them. This obviously created some hard feelings and things got very ugly. I’ve decided to cut all ties with my wife’s family due to this which obviously causes problems for her because I will not attend family functions, holidays, etc. Do you think I am wrong to do so?
— Stepfather
Stepfather: My first question is, where is your wife in all of this? I don’t know the financial setup of your marriage, of course, but the home you live in is also her home so one would think that she gets a say in who gets to live there and who gets evicted, particularly if they’re her own children. And maybe there was more joint discussion about the adult children not contributing enough to the household — nine is a lot of people — but it reads like some of these decisions were unilateral and that can cause a lot of conflict.
There are many people who don’t have smooth relationships with in-laws. Sometimes that’s unavoidable. But your wife is your family, and so her family is your family. Refusing to engage with them puts her in an impossible position. Who is she supposed to choose?
You don’t have to let them live with you, but more conversation will be helpful here. Getting into the habit of making joint decisions with your wife, even if it requires more compromise than you’d ideally like, will help your marriage. And finding a way past some of the animosity with her adult kids will help everyone.
Last year, my wife’s fourth adult child died so I inherited her 3-year-old.
We had nine people in our home. I am not their father but tried to give them an opportunity in life until I realized they didn’t want help getting on their feet, they wanted to be taken care of.
So, I filed eviction on all of them. This obviously created some hard feelings and things got very ugly. I’ve decided to cut all ties with my wife’s family due to this which obviously causes problems for her because I will not attend family functions, holidays, etc. Do you think I am wrong to do so?
— Stepfather
Stepfather: My first question is, where is your wife in all of this? I don’t know the financial setup of your marriage, of course, but the home you live in is also her home so one would think that she gets a say in who gets to live there and who gets evicted, particularly if they’re her own children. And maybe there was more joint discussion about the adult children not contributing enough to the household — nine is a lot of people — but it reads like some of these decisions were unilateral and that can cause a lot of conflict.
There are many people who don’t have smooth relationships with in-laws. Sometimes that’s unavoidable. But your wife is your family, and so her family is your family. Refusing to engage with them puts her in an impossible position. Who is she supposed to choose?
You don’t have to let them live with you, but more conversation will be helpful here. Getting into the habit of making joint decisions with your wife, even if it requires more compromise than you’d ideally like, will help your marriage. And finding a way past some of the animosity with her adult kids will help everyone.
Case (case) wrote in fandomsecrets2025-08-26 05:29 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2025-08-26 05:29 pm[ SECRET POST #6808 ]
⌈ Secret Post #6808 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 18 secrets from Secret Submission Post #972.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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Hi Carolyn! I have a 5-year-old, “Jane,” and a 2-year-old. Jane is a highly physical kid and loves to roughhouse. She also ALWAYS is chewing on things that aren’t food. There have been times recently where she has hurt herself doing something that I’ve already warned her not to do and inside I’m just screaming, “I told you so!”
Two examples in the past week: Jane is enjoying running and sliding in socks on our wood floors. I tell her she might bump into something so maybe take the socks off. She ignores me and within a minute has bumped her head and shoulder into the wall and bursts into tears. Last night she was chewing on a pen that had a little pompom on a chain. I tell her to stop or it will break. She continues chewing and somehow latches the clasp on a small gap between her teeth. It gets stuck, takes my husband and me about 10 minutes of holding her down screaming so we can unhook it.
In cases like these, I really want to say something after she calms down, like, “Honey, I give you warnings to stop something because I don’t want you to get hurt.” My husband feels like a lecture after she’s been crying isn’t going to help. Who is right?
— Natural Consequences
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Two examples in the past week: Jane is enjoying running and sliding in socks on our wood floors. I tell her she might bump into something so maybe take the socks off. She ignores me and within a minute has bumped her head and shoulder into the wall and bursts into tears. Last night she was chewing on a pen that had a little pompom on a chain. I tell her to stop or it will break. She continues chewing and somehow latches the clasp on a small gap between her teeth. It gets stuck, takes my husband and me about 10 minutes of holding her down screaming so we can unhook it.
In cases like these, I really want to say something after she calms down, like, “Honey, I give you warnings to stop something because I don’t want you to get hurt.” My husband feels like a lecture after she’s been crying isn’t going to help. Who is right?
— Natural Consequences
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iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-26 05:42 pm
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-26 05:42 pmEntry tags:
Blue Beetle #22
Writer: Len Wein
Pencils: Ross Andru
Inks: Danny Bulanadi
Blue Beetle returns from the Millennium crossover to discover that dinosaurs have taken over Chicago.
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Mo Dao Zu Shi/The Untamed: The Simplest Way Forward by harriet_vane
Fandom: Mo Dao Zu Shi/The Untamed
Pairings/Characters: Lan Zhan | Lan Wangji/Wei Ying | Wei Wuxian
Rating: Explicit
Length: 70,972 words
Creator Links: harriet_vane at AO3
Theme: Marriage of Convenience
Summary:
It’s a really unfortunate thing, developing a crush on your husband. Wei Ying had assumed this would be easy. Lan Zhan had been so icy and unpleasant to him, it had never occurred to him that he might end up spending the next however many years with this dumb, burning feeling in his chest whenever he looks at him.
“Okay,” says Wei Ying. “But tell me if I…if the pretending gets to be too hard, okay?”
“It will not,” says Lan Zhan, quietly certain.
Reccer’s Notes: Is it redundant to rec a fic that has 31,682 kudos (and counting)? And has already been recced on this community (although 5 years ago and for a different theme?) Probably. Am I going to do it anyway? Yes. Yes, I am.
Because it is fabulous.
It’s kidfic with Yaun at his most adorable, it’s a modern AU, it’s beautifully written and even if you’ve read it before I’m sure now is a great time for a reread.
Lan Zhan is his impeccable, smitten, useless at communicating self and Wei Wuxian is, as always, just doing his best in the circumstances he finds himself in.
An absolute classic. BTW, If you haven’t dipped a toe in MDZS canon or fanon, you could read this anyway due to its AU nature, and then perhaps be hooked… 31,682 AO3 users can’t be wrong, right?
Fanwork links: The Simplest Way Forward
Pairings/Characters: Lan Zhan | Lan Wangji/Wei Ying | Wei Wuxian
Rating: Explicit
Length: 70,972 words
Creator Links: harriet_vane at AO3
Theme: Marriage of Convenience
Summary:
It’s a really unfortunate thing, developing a crush on your husband. Wei Ying had assumed this would be easy. Lan Zhan had been so icy and unpleasant to him, it had never occurred to him that he might end up spending the next however many years with this dumb, burning feeling in his chest whenever he looks at him.
“Okay,” says Wei Ying. “But tell me if I…if the pretending gets to be too hard, okay?”
“It will not,” says Lan Zhan, quietly certain.
Reccer’s Notes: Is it redundant to rec a fic that has 31,682 kudos (and counting)? And has already been recced on this community (although 5 years ago and for a different theme?) Probably. Am I going to do it anyway? Yes. Yes, I am.
Because it is fabulous.
It’s kidfic with Yaun at his most adorable, it’s a modern AU, it’s beautifully written and even if you’ve read it before I’m sure now is a great time for a reread.
Lan Zhan is his impeccable, smitten, useless at communicating self and Wei Wuxian is, as always, just doing his best in the circumstances he finds himself in.
An absolute classic. BTW, If you haven’t dipped a toe in MDZS canon or fanon, you could read this anyway due to its AU nature, and then perhaps be hooked… 31,682 AO3 users can’t be wrong, right?
Fanwork links: The Simplest Way Forward
iamrman (iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-26 02:46 pm
iamrman) wrote in scans_daily2025-08-26 02:46 pmKnightfall: Batman #496
Writer: Doug Moench
Pencils: Jim Aparo
Inks: Josef Rubinstein
Batman gets triggered like somebody just said their mother's name was Martha.
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Hawaii five-O: hoʻokāne by Siria
Fandom: Hawaii five-O
Characters/Pairings: Danny Williams/Steve McGarrett, Grace, Kono, Chin
Rating: Explicit
Length: 13,614
Content Notes: no AO3 warnings apply
Creator Links: Siria on AO3
Themes: Marriage of Convenience, First time, Fake marriage, Action/adventure, Family, AU: fork in the road
Summary: As active as Danny's imagination was, however, as strong as all his fears could be at the thoughts of his little girl being taken away from him again, he'd forgotten to factor in one very important element: Steve.
Reccer's Notes: This take on the marriage of convenience trope centres on Danny's devotion to his daughter, Grace. His ex moves to the US mainland with her husband and the only way Danny can get custody is if he's in a stable relationship - a marriage. Steve tells the judge they're about to marry and Danny stumbles through it, baffled at the way his team fully accept the situation and only berate him for keeping the affair a secret. The story takes us through the usual enjoyable dilemmas of a fake marriage like the need to share a bed, made more pressing with Grace in the house as she believes the marriage is genuine (which of course it is - Danny just doesn't know it yet). They're clearly married in the show and in this fic, but in Danny's case, massively oblivious (Steve not so much, having masterminded the marriage plan), and it all works out happily, as expected. Along the way there's lots of amusing snark and backchat, and it's wonderfully written, and a thoroughly good read.
Fanwork Links: hoʻokāne
Characters/Pairings: Danny Williams/Steve McGarrett, Grace, Kono, Chin
Rating: Explicit
Length: 13,614
Content Notes: no AO3 warnings apply
Creator Links: Siria on AO3
Themes: Marriage of Convenience, First time, Fake marriage, Action/adventure, Family, AU: fork in the road
Summary: As active as Danny's imagination was, however, as strong as all his fears could be at the thoughts of his little girl being taken away from him again, he'd forgotten to factor in one very important element: Steve.
Reccer's Notes: This take on the marriage of convenience trope centres on Danny's devotion to his daughter, Grace. His ex moves to the US mainland with her husband and the only way Danny can get custody is if he's in a stable relationship - a marriage. Steve tells the judge they're about to marry and Danny stumbles through it, baffled at the way his team fully accept the situation and only berate him for keeping the affair a secret. The story takes us through the usual enjoyable dilemmas of a fake marriage like the need to share a bed, made more pressing with Grace in the house as she believes the marriage is genuine (which of course it is - Danny just doesn't know it yet). They're clearly married in the show and in this fic, but in Danny's case, massively oblivious (Steve not so much, having masterminded the marriage plan), and it all works out happily, as expected. Along the way there's lots of amusing snark and backchat, and it's wonderfully written, and a thoroughly good read.
Fanwork Links: hoʻokāne